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#1 男人的體貼，應表現在女人的心坎裡
男人的體貼，應表現在女人的心坎裡。這需要細膩的觀察、十足的耐心、和積極的行動力。絕對不是煮一頓飯、洗一盆碗那麼簡單。
女人對於所謂的「好男人」，要求的條件有很多種。最傳統的條件之一，大概
是：「願意幫我燒飯、洗碗！」
在專業領域有不凡表現的她，不論衣著及談吐，都給人新女性的印象。但是她的見解
卻與眾不同，她說：「千萬拜託，請不要幫我燒飯、洗碗！」追問之下，她也沒有什
麼特別理由，「只是覺得每天在家幫我燒飯、洗碗的男人，有點怪怪的。偶而為之，
特別的日子，下廚煮一頓飯，尚可接受。最好分工合作，他燒飯、我洗碗。如果，天
天為我燒飯、洗碗，我會覺得怪怪的。」
乍聽她的意見，很容易誤以為她新世代的外表，窩藏著傳統食古不化的內在。一個容
不得讓男人為她燒飯、洗碗的女人，算什麼新女性呢？繼續聽她說出心裡的感受，才
發現她的觀點，並不簡單。
她說，與其讓男人在家裡幫我燒飯、洗碗；不如他願意陪我出來看一場我喜歡的電
影，並且暗地裡準備我喜歡的零食，驚喜地從口袋裡陸續變出爆米花、蜜餞、葡萄
柚。
• 男人表現體貼，需要細膩的觀察、十足的耐心、和積極的行動
在她眼裡，男人的體貼，應表現在女人的心坎裡。這需要細膩的觀察、十足的耐心、
和積極的行動力。絕對不是煮一頓飯、洗一盆碗那麼簡單。
相較於煮一頓飯、洗一盆碗，對女人來說，都是太容易的日常生活瑣事。自己絕對可
以應付，大不了出去吃館子，有必要時也可以僱請外籍傭人幫忙。總之，這些事不一
定需要心愛的男人親自動手，別人都可以替代。
但是，陪著看一場她喜歡的電影，暗地裡準備她愛吃的零食，進了電影院，燈光熄滅
以後，像變魔術般溫柔地讓那些可口的食物即時出現在她眼前，一項跟著一項，雖然
同樣是舉手之勞的動作，卻非得細心體貼的男人來做，才會有真正的感動，而這種感
動，千金難買。
新時代的女人，並不想在勞動力上處處佔盡男人的便宜。家事上，分工合作，是為了
符合公平原則。把燒飯、洗碗這些事全部推給男人，並非新女性的本意。
女性最需要的，其實心愛的男人隨時隨地對她表現體貼的心意，這些體貼的心意裡，
充分顯示他對她的尊敬、以及關心。
• 男人的體貼，會令女性覺得虛榮
她舉出另一個實例，有關逛街購物。新時代的女性，當然有權利要求心愛的男人，陪
她到她最鍾情的品牌專賣店去買東西。但是，不論這個男人在逛街時的態度多麼好，
事後是否拿出信用卡來幫她買單，都不會比另一種體貼的男人令她感動。
另一種體貼的男人，到底如何擄獲芳心呢？
他暗地裡觀察她喜歡的品牌，每次約會時就不經意地逛到那家專賣店附近，然後主動
邀請她：「我們好久沒出來逛逛了，走，進來看看他們有沒有進什麼新貨。」
這種體貼，是會貼進女性心坎兒裡的。她覺得和這種男人交往，才是真正談戀愛。
男人的體貼，會令女性覺得虛榮。一包她最愛的爆米花、一家她喜歡的店，都會滿足
她對幸福所有的想像。她會因此而覺得，他這樣用心對待她，她這一輩子就會有吃不
完的爆米花，用不完的那家品牌店裡的東西。
男人的細心體貼，是女人幸福的保障。這份細心體貼，必須是針對心愛的女人個別的
需求，而不是很大眾化的理想--幫她燒飯、洗碗。
當然，對於男人而言，這些細節的事的確都很難做到；相較之下，幫她燒飯、洗碗，
顯然還是容易多了。
以上部分的女性觀點，由電視名主持人高怡平小姐在一次閒聊中不經意提供。她說，
很樂意被我拿來引用。我決定寫出來，讓時下男女作為借鏡。
幸福思考；聰明行動
男人的細心體貼，讓女人覺得她幸福確實有保障。
想表現對情人的愛意，要愛進對方的心坎兒裡，
而不只是做做表面文章而已。
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